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Your How to Guide to Writing Wedding Vows and Promises

Wedding vows and promises are one of the most beautiful and unique ways to showcase your emotion and relationship with your significant other. Being one of the most meaningful and expressive part of any ceremony it’s a chance for couples to express their innermost feelings and emotions. It is an opportunity for you and your partner to express your love for each other and declare promises that you will make for a lifetime. Writing wedding vows and promises can be a daunting task, but here are some tips on how to make them meaningful and memorable.

Gather: Get some insp from various sources like your celebrant, romantic poems, songs, movies and books.

Thought: Probably best to not give them too much thought, usually the first thing that comes into your head is best and what you are wanting to say.

Humour: Humour is a great way to lighten the mood, but you don’t need to crack a full-on joke. Add subtle humour that may make your partner and or guest’s giggle.

Discuss: Chat with your partner the tone, length, and style you both want. Nobody wants to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable with one partner writing an epistle whilst the other writes a sentence (or two).

Authentic: Add some personal touches, be true to your personality, after all your significant other has chosen you above all others for a reason!kHonesty: Be honest, write from the heart about your feelings and emotions. Be your beautiful self, don’t try to fake it and be something your not, be true to yourself and your relationship.

Moments: Maybe mention key moments such as memories or anecdotes that showcase your journey as a couple.

Personality: Let your personality shine! Use words and phrases that best express how you feel and what you believe.

Opinions: Seek others opinions, share your vows with a trusted friend, family member, your best man or even maybe your celebrant and ask for their feedback. An outside perspective could help you perfect your words.

Question: Reflect on what you like and love about your partner? What are the qualities that you admire in them and what makes your relationship so unique and special.

Simple: You don’t need to use fancy words or complicated language. Use your own speak and Keep your vows simple and easy to understand. Less is more!

Length: Size doesn’t matter! What you say doesn’t have to be too long, its what you say that counts.

Practice: Reading out loud sounds very different than the written word. This will help you feel more comfortable and confident on the big day and allow you to speak in your tone.

Reflection: Reflect on your relationship and make a list of what’s important to you both.

Remember: Your wedding day is about you and your partner, and it should be a celebration of your love for each other.

Commence: Start writing early, give it a go and don’t worry about getting it perfect on the first try, don’t leave it till the last minute.


words by Sue Lush


Cheat: If all this sounds a lot and your heads still spinning, jot down three things you love about your partner, three things you hope for your future together, and three promises you can make…………………. and there you have your vows and promises!


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